It felt a bit like everyone there was a gay man or a straight woman, and I feel crazy for finding that really frustrating. Ok, so this past week I went to a gay club in downtown Toronto for the first time (I turned 19 during the pandemic, so I haven’t been able to go out until now) and I was expecting to have a grand old time where I felt super at ease and like I was surrounded by other queer people, and instead I felt super worried that I was somehow doing it wrong or that all the women/femmes who were there weren’t queer to begin with.
MASCULINE GAY MEN WITH TWINK CRACKED
In all fairness though, skinny jeans aren't all they're cracked up to be. They look fabulous, but me taking off skinny jeans while someone is in the room waiting is probably the least sexiest thing. Yeah, I think that's my only gripe about being a twink.
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I'll continue being happy wearing my skinny jeans, listening to Kelly Clarkson and sipping on my vodka soda, splash of cranberry (all twink things). This is the most important. We genuinely don't give a sh*t what you have to say. Now, this is something that is quite controversial, because if you are feminine, who gives a f*ck. Except in the gay community, it seems that those who are considered feminine are seen as less than or oftentimes on the receiving end of a disparaging remark or insult.Ī guy's size or stature does not determine their masculinity. So size queens, next time you're looking for something a little more than “average,” look for your nearest twink. I may wear an XS, but just so happen to be an L in other places (really, this needs no explanation). It's so annoying that because a person is skinny, that the assumption is they are small everywhere. That big, buff guy you're drooling over may be "masc" in the streets, but will be facedown wearing your pillowcase as a mask the second you get him home. Believe it or not, when you're at the bar/club next time and you see that gaggle of twinks dancing with each other, four of five are tops.Ī wise man once told me, “The bigger the arms, the bigger the bottom.” Someone who's been around the block a few times has learned that this saying is spot on. Here are four major assumptions you have wrong about twinks: 1. The term “twink” comes with many assumptions, some that I am here to prove to be wrong. Twink: a smooth-bodied, almost prepubescent-looking gay male. It also lovingly has a reference to a Twinkie (that spongy yellow cake you ate as a child). Just because you can possibly see one ab in the right lighting while holding your breath for 30 seconds, my dear little gay boy, does not make you a jock. Jocks.īeing a “jock” in the gay community is seen as the holy grail of gays, even though the term jock is wildly misused.
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Hell, look at your Scruff profile and it basically asks you what you are and what you're into. That's something we do in we label everyone. Jock, twink, bear, otter, muscle queen, top, bottom and the list goes on and on. In all reality, I'm a couple years past the twink label, but once you're labeled in the queer community, it kind of sticks. I've been labeled a "twink" in the queer community.
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I know, in this world, you would think a skinny, smooth, fabulous gay man would make navigating the queer world easy.